Life happens. It’s unavoidable. Sometimes we get busy with work, sometimes we have family situations that require our attention. In these moments we must remember the following:
Find time to love each other
Find time to remind each other of how significant you are to one another
Find a way to keep things exciting and fresh
In the case of a player, when he is with another woman, how do you love him unconditionally?
This question is a tough one for any woman who has loved a player. Or, if you’ve been the side chick to a main chick you have probably wondered if loving the player is the right thing for you.
My friends don’t like that I am the side chick to a player, but I will ride or die for him…and he knows this. I’ve proven it time and again. I stand by his side thru the good, the bad, the ups, the downs, financials issues, illness, the laughter, the tears and I love him – unconditionally. But how do I do it?
I have to remember that if I truly love him (and think hard before you answer this question about your man) unconditionally, then I will love him no matter what he does. Its that simple. Just as a woman can love her child, just as a sister can love her sister, so can a woman love her player. A mother loves her child no matter what the child does, correct? Sure she might be annoyed that she has to clean up the occasional mess, but this shouldn’t ever change the amount of love she feels for that child. Now apply this practice to your player. Can you honestly say to yourself that you will love him if he comes home late? Probably. Will you love him if he sleeps with another woman? In your bed? And lies to you about it? Do you see where I am going with this? TO LOVE A PLAYER MEANS YOU HAVE TO LOVE HIM AS HE IS….NO MATTER WHAT HE DOES.
You might ask yourself about the pain. When he sleeps with another woman and you feel sad how should you handle this? How should you manage thru it? Well, the answer is easy. If you love him unconditionally you will never have any pain. You won’t have pain because you love him no matter what he does. Think back to the child spilling the drink on the carpet….sure, they spilled a drink but you still love them. Sure, your player just fucked another woman but you love him as him. His actions are not part of that unconditional love.
This all sounds so easy on paper. Trust me when I tell you it takes practice. I struggle to love him when he is with his main chick, I struggle to love him when he is at dinner with a shiny new toy. I would guess that I am 80-90% there with my player. A lot of what he does doesn’t bother me because I love him for him. He has opened up and let me see him as he is. I accept him just as he is. I know something will happen some day that will test this, but until then I am going have fun loving and supporting my man.
Love ya!
Aimee Lane
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You are an absolute retard. Go online, and buy yourself some self esteem. If you honestly don’t see the issue in this article and the fact that you are comparing a relationship between a grown man and woman to a mother and child, then you need your head checked.
You may be correct that I need to have my head checked. I think, however, that a lot of women struggle with being in love with a player and my situation is similar to them. Have your relationships always been so wonderful that you never doubted yourself or doubted the love of your partner? I would love to hear about it, because the women I have met over the years have all been through something like this at one time or another and you would be the exception, not the rule.