Fear

What dreams mean

October 14, 2012

I have been having a recurring dream that has been horrible and terrifying. I talked to some people who understand how the subconscious brain works and they explained to me the following: 1. During our wakened state of being, meaning during the day when we are at work or out with friends, we have too [...]

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Oral Sex….WOW!

October 10, 2012

I have a friend who just realized how amazing oral sex can be. In my opinion she is an oral sex virgin. She has only had it 3 times before: once with college boyfriend once with post college boyfriend and once a couple years ago with a guy she thought about marrying (she told me [...]

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Battle of wills

September 24, 2012

What do you do when you both want different things in your relationship? Options: 1. End the relationship as friends and move on 2. Listen and understand the person’s need and accommodate them I am in a situation where I want something different than my player does. He and I talked about his fear and [...]

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Haters love to talk trash

September 20, 2012

I’m exhausted and fed-up with haters of my relationships. Some people cannot understand how a black man and a white woman could be so close as friends. They look at us and assume one must be taking advantage of the other. They look at us and cannot fathom that we are best friends solely because [...]

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Why do you keep the truth from your ex?

September 16, 2012

I met my player’s ex-girlfriend and instead of telling her that the relationship he shares with me is important, amazing, and powerful he said we’re just friends. Why would someone not tell the truth (the full truth) unless they thought they had something to lose. People lie out of FEAR. That’s what happened here too. [...]

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Men always get caught

September 12, 2012

I have a friend who lies constantly and thinks no one knows the truth. But I found out the truth about this friend’s lie and it has helped me realize the kind of person this friend really is. I understand his inner core and his moral fiber better than ever. I see that his insecurity, [...]

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How to make your spirit orgasm

August 18, 2012

While on twitter. I stumbled across this great article written by (@BeRealBlack4Me): http://www.bootiesbooksandtheblues.blogspot.com/2012/06/oversimplification-of-sexual-energy.html I got this great line from the article above: “but in order to make your spirit cum, the physical climax is just one, ancillary, aspect of the experience. Spiritual arousal is that connection two people share even before they have met, that endures even [...]

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Would you let your man cheat for 30 days and still be in love with him?

July 26, 2012

I agreed today for my player to have carte blanche over the next month. To date, dine, sex whoever he pleases. (What the fuck did I just agree to?) I will be honest: I don’t want to be doing this, but this is what he wants. See, we had made a commitment to each other [...]

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I love you because the entire universe conspired to help me find you

July 25, 2012

“I love you because the entire universe conspired to help me find you.” -Paolo Coelho (The Alchemist) While I wish I was brilliant enough to create that quote on my own, it nonetheless represents how I feel about my player. There is love and there is love that you cannot control. It has a mind [...]

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Realistic marriage – Sex

July 11, 2012

1) No sex before marriage Are you kidding me! I had my ex tell me one day, that she wanted to stop having sex if we were thinking about marriage. I almost fainted when she told me that, because she was the one that turned me out and she could never stop having sex. Yes! [...]

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