Players

How not to get caught cheating

August 5, 2012

Not getting caught for a guy is all in his mind. His mind is strong and filled with being very cocky. He is very outspoken and has swagger. The key thing is that he is not afraid of being caught.  If he’s out with another woman and sees his main chick or her friend he [...]

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I conducted an experiment with my player….and it was horrible

August 3, 2012

Here was my experiment: For 7 days I did not react to anything he told me. No matter what it was, I loved him unconditionally and did not change my voice or my tone. I would then have a calm unemotional conversation about whatever it was he just told me, especially if it did bother [...]

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Is the side chick always jealous of the main chick?

August 3, 2012

My player thinks this is the case with me. He thinks that all of the stuff I keep bringing up regarding our relationship is related to her. I wouldn’t call it jealousy per se, but he is correct that I am tired of only having half of him. I have reached a point where I [...]

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Don’t ever expect your player to give you anything

August 2, 2012

Will I stay with my player or let the relationship go?  So much of this confusion is my issue. My player is happy: he gets his cake (i.e. main chick) and gets to eat it too (i.e. side chick). But, I have expectations of him. I have a desire for him to respect me and [...]

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Men are like hotels — choose wisely

July 31, 2012

A friend shared this with me today…too true: What’s the difference between a five-star hotel and an inexpensive motel? They both have a bed and a bathroom, of course, but that’s where the similarity ends. In a cheap motel you get the bare minimum: beyond a place to sleep and freshen up, you will be [...]

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Would you let your man cheat for 30 days and still be in love with him?

July 26, 2012

I agreed today for my player to have carte blanche over the next month. To date, dine, sex whoever he pleases. (What the fuck did I just agree to?) I will be honest: I don’t want to be doing this, but this is what he wants. See, we had made a commitment to each other [...]

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Arguments are never just about the number of condoms in the drawer

July 23, 2012

My player and I had a discussion today about the number of condoms in his condom drawer. He was annoyed that I would not believe him when he said that one isn’t missing and that he isn’t sexing around. The irony in all of this is that I do believe he isn’t sexing beyond what [...]

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I’m sticking with it until the end

July 22, 2012

Everyone always says “it all works out in the end”. What this means to me is that we either begin to accept the pain which or we fix the issue. The end comes to us when we are ready…we don’t go to the end. Dating a player forces that person to ask themselves if they [...]

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Relationships evolve…..even with a player

July 19, 2012

Everything changes, especially relationships and if you don’t let them evolve, you run the risk of destroying them. This is true with our family members as well as with our lovers. We need to keep communicating, continue talking, work through the tough issues that we keep sweeping under the rug. We have to respect each [...]

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Some days I think my player isn’t in love with me….

July 18, 2012

My player will probably read this post title and be annoyed because we have already had this discussion (twice) and we have worked out that he is in love with me (and I believe him). If you have doubt then talk it out. Here is a quick recap of the doubts I had: There are [...]

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