I have had lots of monogamous/committed/happy relationships over the years. But the pattern was always the same. We start out great, happy, get along, then she changes and we start to have moments when the relationship feels more like work than fun and then it falls apart. We followed the “healthy relationship” recipe: communicate, share, be honest, respect, spend time together, spend time apart. Blah blah blah. If I followed the healthy recipe then why did the result burn up and fall apart?
Part of it lies with me. I am overly critical and easily bored. The shiny new toy syndrome only lasts so long before I want it replaced. And once I have tagged it as replaceable everything that toy does annoys me. Sure, there will be moments when we are happy but overall I’m done with the toy. I’ve checked out. But this happens so quickly I haven’t even realized it. So I start to pick at the girl – just pick her apart. Point out everything that she does wrong hoping that she will leave me so I don’t have to deal with the drama. Sadly, for the girl, most don’t leave. They let me cheat, they let me use them, always forgiving me and always coming back for more. It is difficult to respect a woman who always takes me back. My advice to the women out there: Leave me. Don’t stay. Go find your own shiny new toy. You will be happier in the long run.