I got a call tonight from an ex that I haven’t heard from in over a year. He was a hottie that I dated in my early 20s and lost track of when I moved to NYC. He moved to Europe and is back in the states and interested in getting together. So what does one do when an ex resurfaces and you’re in a committed, albeit open, relationship?
My player is mad cool and doesn’t get bothered by my exs and my shiny new toys the same way I do. He says he is confident that I will never meet anyone as amazing as him so he doesn’t need to worry. While his arrogance is off-putting his accuracy is spot on. I believe its true that I will never meet another man like him who has had such an emotional and spiritual impact on my life.
Of course, I will discuss this with him, but for now, if I assume he is cool with everything then I need to make the decision on what to do. Should I have dinner or shouldn’t I?
It is easy to get addicted to the drama or excitement of this situation. It is easy to feed the ego and feel good. But why would I? My ego is solid. In yoga (or any physical activity) when we push ourselves our ego is in there controlling us, telling us its ok to stop and to do what is easy, giving us ways to justify walking away so the ego can be at peace. But, I have closure with this ex. I do not need to prove anything to him. I do not have an old grudge. I do not need to win him back only to prove to myself I’m amazing. I already know I am. I have enough self-love to move away from this proposition and continue doing what is healthy. These temptations will always be there both for me and my player. It is how we handle them that keeps us strong.