I have a female friend (who I am not sleeping with) and she knows all about my player ways. And although she is my closest female friend and my confidant I still don’t tell her everything. I leave out little details unless she asks. I don’t tell her who I’m with each night; I don’t tell her where I go with my women; I don’t tell her the special things I do for my women. I don’t reveal any of this unless she asks. But when I’m with my boys I tell them all of this.
If this female friend is as close to me as my boys then why do I hold back?
I think a part of me is so programmed to lie to women that I can’t stop. I fear there will be drama. I think another part of my ego thinks she is actually in love with me and if I tell her about these women she will create drama. I think that if I edit the truth slightly it will be easier for her to take in and handle. Perhaps I should give her a chance. But what would happen if I did open up?
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DON’T edit anything. Either stop being her friend or tell her the full truth. I had a similar friendship with a guy and I recently caught him in so many lies. I think we both started having feelings for each other, but I knew about his past and he and I both knew he wasn’t going to change soon. He treated me very nicely, but the lying thing is NOT something I or many other people tolerate. I caught him in a couple more personal lies that bothered me but they were lies about his dark childhood so I didn’t call him out. However, once I made it apparent I wouldn’t date him after he told me about his past — he started the lying, asking to hang out then making up an excuse, etc. Not cool. If you really want to be friends with this girl, BE FRIENDS WITH HER! Friends don’t lie to each other. If you’re not ready for a relationship with her, don’t get into a relationship. It’ll end bad. Come to terms with the fact that maybe YOU have feelings for her, but just keep her around as a friend. It’s good practice for when you actually are ready in a relationship. And try not to get physical…it gets even more messy. Just learn how to respect women a little more by staying in this friendship and being honest with her.
The friend thing only works as you get older and there is only so much truth you can tell a woman. Women always say they want to hear the truth, then they start tripping once they here it. As you grow older I think men understand the value of having a woman as a friend. If a guy is dealing with a woman younger than 30. If he is interested most of the time he just wants to be friends with benefits.
The truth only works if you dealing with someone that can handle the truth. Most women today can’t.