As I was walking in one of the popular malls in downtown New York with my Caucasian friend, a little girl ran up to me and gave me a big hug. She was the daughter of a friend of mine that I use to date back in the day, nothing serious. I was startled to be greeted by her daughter. After the hug I straighten my eyes and saw the mother looking at me in disgust standing outside of one the stores in the mall. As my friend and I approached her to say hello. She cut her eyes and turned her mouth at me. I just ignored her and introduced her too my friend and then we proceeded on our journey in the mall.
After that interaction I was a little frustrated and started to think about, “Why black women hate on white women.” Just by my friend being white she already ruled her out by being the worst person in the world. She didn’t take time to talk to my friend understand her struggles as a person, her family history, her hopes and dreams. She just immediately judged her as being the enemy taking all her black men away. Men tend to gravitate towards women who are like-minded. They look for specific things in woman to make them happy to get them closer to their goals and dreams. Men look for that in women that can be in the form of a friendship or relationship. Black women need to realize the reason the man is not with them is because she could not provide what he needed. Don’t blame your frustration on a white woman because she’s with a black man.
Black women should be happy for their black man if they have a Caucasian friend or in a relationship with one. We should be lifting each other up and not putting each other down. Black women need to stop twisting their mouth and turning up there face and open their minds and respect a Caucasian women if they see them with a black man.