Stevie J is the player that can been seen on the reality show Love and Hip Hop Atlanta. The show was seen by millions this past Monday and people have been talking about it for five days now. He is a player without morals. He just doesn’t give a shit now. I say “now” because he will realize after watching the show and talking to people that he will make the decision to change. He will change because he wants to see the women that he is dealing with be happy.
All players have been like Stevie J one time or another – where we disrespected women right in front of their faces and they continued to stayed. It’s not only women. My main chick/point guard has disrespected me in the past and I continued to stay with her. I stay because of the amount of years invested, the sex, her beauty, the illusion that she can support me emotionally and be a good wife. The reality is that all those things mentioned will fade away. So what are we holding on to when we are disrespected? There is not enough love in the world for someone to disrespect you and get away with it. So the disrespect that you feel from the person begins turns into you either cheating, or taking what you can get from them in the form of money or sex. This starts a cycle of destruction that can take over ten years to walk away from. We have to believe that we can reach our upper limit of success with the right person.
Stevie J has been disrespecting her for years and many men have been doing the same. These women and people like myself are really good people with a great upbringing, smart, fun, sexy and motivated. It’s just really hard for us to find like-minded people. From watching that episode I realized that I was Stevie J’s main chick. Over the 10 year period that I have been with my main chick. I have been disrespected in public and left stranded when I requested for her to pick me up. As a man I could not do any of those following things to her. This is the main reason why I don’t see marriage, because I have witnessed how mean should could be.
Men and women could be like Stevie J. I think the things he did was very mean and hurtful to his main chick. No one should ever have to bear that. I believe Stevie J can change, if he wants to. I realize I have to grow up and part ways from my main chick, because her core is never going to change. We tried for years. I love her so much, but the painful truth is that she doesn’t want a real man like me. She wants an illusion of a real man. Someone that buys her everything and gives her emotional support. There is no human in the world built like that. I am not perfect, but I own my mistakes and try to make them better.
I also realize that I am the stupid one for staying, but, similar to Stevie J’s main chick, do we have enough power and self-worth to leave and start our new life?